Relationship Advice: What To Say To Someone Meddling in Your Relationship

Relationships can be hard enough without your father or friends struggling to ‘improve your relationship’ or, worse, making an attempt to end your relationship! It’s not fun to have someone meddling in your relationship persistently.

I personally experienced a good friend who would persistently meddle in my brand new relationship (now my husband). She would tell me what he really likes and how he really believed and she would tell me that getting to involved with him may not be a good idea.

Oh, You are probably thinking…’Well, she was probably concerned about you!’, but you are dead wrong!

I often felt as though her nosiness was part of something bigger. And in fact, as I down the line found out, she was attracted to my boyfriend and didn’t want us to be together.

We are not friends anymore but I’m married to him.

It may not always be someone trying to break your relationship up though. There are going to be people who truly feel that they are making a positive difference for your relationship. This is the moment you need to step in and tell them a few important things that they need to know.

Remember, if you are in an abusive relationship or a really unhealthy relationship than your buddy, family member or whoever is just probably trying to help you be happy; or if you are going get hurt in a certain way than you may want to listen to what they are attempting to say.

On the other hand, if they are being nosy and opinionated then you have every right to want them to butt out.

Following are 3 things to say to that meddling individual.

1. YOU Are Not in This Relationship!

A sexual relationship has much more to it than what’s on the surface where others can see. We all know that we reserve a exclusive side of our lives for our intimate relationship that only our partner and ourselves experience.

There are special moments of interactions and intimacy that produces a tight bond between two people that is essential for an intimate relationship.

The particular person who is meddling does not share those moments you have had. And furthermore, they are not sharing the emotions and encounters you are going through in the relationship.

They have no right to tell you what you should or shouldn’t do in your relationship given that they are not experiencing your whole relationship!

2. YOU Are Not Me!

Frequently a prying person will state “If it was up to me, I would do it differently Needless to say, they probably WOULD do it differently; because that’s the way THEY would do it! But they are not you. And YOU have a different way of going about things.

Not only do you have a different way of looking at things, but you also have a different way of seeing things and you have unique standards, tendencies, and goals in life and in your relationship than the meddling person would. This makes the way you go about handling situations different from them – and they have to fully grasp that.

3. I’m Enjoying my Relationship

Sometimes you can’t win with them and you just have to shine the happy aspects of your relationship.

Even though you would like to share the sadder moments or discuss relationship problems with them, they may not be able to handle hearing negative things about your relationship without meddling in your relationship.

You are not being fake, it’s not being untruthful, it’s just showing the meddling person a side of your relationship that they can deal with without interjecting their ideas.

If they constantly see happiness and joy then they will have no reason to meddle into your relationship.

Get rid of nosy people by making use of the above 3 tips. Your relationship will thank you!

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